Support Group News - Are you a Momsomniac?
Momsomniac: adj. describing a female, who having recently given birth to a child, has had so little sleep that she is frequently teary, bleary, overwhelmed, overwrought, and generally feels that she has lost herself and may not ever be the self she believes herself to be again.
Six years ago as a 30 year old completing my training to be a marital and family therapist, I naively thought that I would have it all together when I began to have children. During my own struggle with “momsomnia” I had friends who advised, family who helped and a husband who tried to understand. However, it wasn’t until another woman that I viewed as completely competent, calm and capable looked at me with shock as I questioned her about how she did it and stated “I look together? I don’t know what the heck I’m doing either” that I began to feel a little less alone. The simple power of being able to share with someone who is in the same boat made all of the difference in my world and I hope it will for you as well.
Please join us for a free support group for moms of babies.
Where: Transforming Life Counseling Center, Edmond (map)
When: 2nd and 4th Wed. of each month. 10:00 AM
Preregistration Required: Contact Tara at 405-623-8899
Babes in arms welcome.
KOCO News Story
I was recently interviewed by Oklahoma City's KOCO reporter, Wendell Edwards about how internet social-networking may impact some marriages. In the interview (linked below) I discussed the frequency with which we at Transforming Life Counseling Center are seeing couples who are struggling with repairing a breech in their marriage that began when one partner established an emotional relationship with a connection made on a social networking site.
Of course, affairs existed long before social networking...the social networking sites themselves are not responsible for the choices people make about with whom they choose to connect or the potential consequences of those connections. Social networking sites provide a wealth of opportunity for healthy contacts. However, the number of couples seeking our services suggests that couples may want to establish some healthy boundaries regarding contacts and some healthy communication about those contacts in order to enjoy all of the opportunity of social networking without putting their primary relationship at risk. I agreed to be interviewed because as a Licensed Marital and Family Therapist, it is my predominant desire to be proactive about helping couples to create the boundaries needed to best protect their marriage.
For more information about infidelity, I recommend the work of leading expert Dr. Shirley P. Glass, Ph.D. and the ongoing work of the nationally recognized therapist and author Mira Kirshenbaum. Dr. Glass wrote the book "Not Just Friends" and it is great resource for anyone wanting to know more about affairs, how they happen and how to heal. Also, Mira Kirshenbaum's book "When Good People Have Affairs, Inside the Hearts and Minds of People in Two Relationships" is a wise and insightful look at the complicated issue of infidelity.